2 Friendship in Islam

 

Your only friend is Allah, then His Messenger and those who believe, who establish Salah and pay Zakah and bow before Allah. [5:55]

حَدَّثَنِي مُوسَى بْنُ إِسْمَاعِيلَ، حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الْوَاحِدِ، حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو بُرْدَةَ بْنُ عَبْدِ اللهِ، قَالَ سَمِعْتُ أَبَا بُرْدَةَ بْنَ أَبِي مُوسَى، عَنْ أَبِيهِ ـ رضى الله عنه ـ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ الله صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏‏ مَثَلُ الْجَلِيسِ الصَّالِحِ وَالْجَلِيسِ السَّوْءِ كَمَثَلِ صَاحِبِ الْمِسْكِ، وَكِيرِ الْحَدَّادِ، لاَ يَعْدَمُكَ مِنْ صَاحِبِ الْمِسْكِ إِمَّا تَشْتَرِيهِ، أَوْ تَجِدُ رِيحَهُ، وَكِيرُ الْحَدَّادِ يُحْرِقُ بَدَنَكَ أَوْ ثَوْبَكَ أَوْ تَجِدُ مِنْهُ رِيحًا خَبِيثَةً

Abu Musa al-Ash'ari رضي الله عنه said The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said A good friend and a bad friend are like a perfume-seller and a blacksmith: The perfume-seller might give you some perfume as a gift, or you might buy some from him, or at least you might smell its fragrance. As for the blacksmith, he might singe your clothes, and at the very least you will breathe in the fumes of the furnace. [Sahih al-Bukhari] 

عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ‏ الْمَرْءُ عَلَى دِينِ خَلِيلِهِ، فَلْيَنْظُرْ أَحَدُكُمْ مَنْ يُخَالِلْ

Abu Huraira  رضي الله عنه  reported: The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said: A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends [Ahmed]

Alhamdulillah, we all know how much it is exciting and entertaining when it comes to meeting friends and spending time together. Mankind can't live alone every individual must live and interact with others. When interacting with others one either influences or is himself influenced.

As parents it is very important to choose decent and faithful friends to our kids. It has been proven through experience that habits and behavior of friend and associates slowly manifest in an individual. Without realizing a person begins to adopt the style and behavior of his friends. 

There are 3 types of friends:

1. Those that are necessary like nourishment and you can't live without them.
2. Those that are like medicine and our beneficial, so you need them sometimes.
3. Those that are like a sickness and you do not need them at all 

I know the emotional feeling of my own kids on how they behave when they receive the letters from their pen pals. Why not! friendship is an important part of each individual to show their feeling, experience, happy and sorrow.

Even the best of creation our beloved Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم had a highest level of friendship with whom we all knew is Abu Bakr رضي الله عنه the first man to accept Islam. Even after being beaten unconscious by the Quraysh, he was most concerned about how the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم was. 

عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ قَالَ: قَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ صَلَّى الله عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: إِنَّ أَحَدَكُمْ مِرْآةُ أَخِيهِ، فَإِنْ رَأَى بِهِ أَذًى فَلْيُمِطْهُ عَنْهُ

Also the child should be explained the above hadeeth, Abu Huraira رضي الله عنه said that Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم Each of you is a mirror for his brother. If he sees something bad, let him remove it for him. [Tirmidhi]

Because he helps him to maintain correct behavior, so each one of them should advise kindly without exposing him publicly or sneer at him when they do something haram.

Instead of making friends with the misguided ones we should befriend with righteous, yet treat the rest in a gracious and just manner. 

The dangerous of having corrupt friends isn't confined to the worldly life, such friendship produce repentance on the day of resurrection too. 

And (Be mindful of) the Day the wrongdoer will bite his hands saying,“Would that I had taken a path along with the messenger! Woe to me! Would that I had not taken so-and-so for my friend! Indeed he led me astray from the advice after it had come to me.” And the Satan is man’s betrayer. [25:27-29]

The 2 main regrets on the day of judgement are not following Muhammed صلى الله عليه وسلم on the path of guidance and befriending a person who diverted one from the truth. The Exalted says in Nobel Qur'an:

Friends, on that day, will become enemies to one another, except the God-fearing [43:67]

Here the Qur'an is not saying that friends will not help or benefit each other on that day, it is saying something much stronger that friends who were not God fearing will be the enemies of each other on the day of Qiyamah.

Another point I would like to emphasize is the company of the scholars, these are the words Luqman عليه السلام instructed his son, "keep the company of the scholars and listen attentively to the words of the wise, for therewith Allah revives the dead hearts just as he revives the dead earth with heavy rain".

Finally we ask Allah to make us of the righteous ones and give us companions that will take us away from his wrath and lead us his pleasure and paradise!          

2 Soil Activities

And [mention, O Muhammad], when your Lord said to the angels, "I will create a human being out of clay from an altered black mud. (15:28)

Surely, the case of Isa (Jesus), in the sight of Allah, is like the case of ‘Adam “He created him from dust, then He said to him, “Be”, and he came to be. (3:59)

From the earth We created you, and into it We will return you, and from it We will extract you another time. (20:55)

Abû Mûsâ al-Ash`arî رضي الله عنه relates that the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said: “Allah created Adam from a handful taken from all over the Earth. Therefore, the descendants of Adam came forth corresponding to the Earth. Some are red, some are white, and some are black, and some are intermediate between those. Some are easygoing, some are difficult, some are bad, and some are good.”   (Abû Dâwûd)

Alhamdulillah, Eventually we were able to make a flap book about soil. Anyway science is one of our Big Sisters favorite subject. 

Subhanallah as homeschoolers we parents have a good opportunity of discussing the verses of Allah and the words of the final messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم when we are involved in this immense responsibility of educating our children. 

It is very fascinating to do such activities with kids only matter is the shortage of time.

 Filled a jar with soil and after 30min humus was formed

"All About Dirt" is a wonderful document links to many online resources. (download link, file size 1.54mb) 

0 Time Management

Indeed All praise is due to Allah, We praise him, seek refuge with him and seek his forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides there is none who can misguide him. And whoever Allah misguides there is none who can guide him. May the peace and blessing of Allah be upon the master of peace Muhammed صلى الله عليه وسلم

With the name of Allah, the All-Merciful, the Very-Merciful.

1. (I swear) by the Time 2. man is in a state of loss indeed 3. except those who believed and did righteous deeds, and exhorted each other to follow truth, and exhorted each other to observe patience.

Ibn Mas'ood  رضي الله عنه narrates, Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said: The feet of the son of Adam will not move from near his Lord on the Day of Judgment until he is asked about five matters:

• about his life, how he spent it
• about his youth, how he took care of it
• about his wealth, how he earned it
• and how he spent it
• about that which he acted upon from the knowledge that he acquired

The above hadeeth forewarns against the reckoning the man have to face on the day of Qiymah first and foremost everybody will have to render an account of his entire life time every second of which is an invaluable asset for man.

From various ayahs of Holy Quran and sayings of the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم we can understand how much important the time is. The Almighty makes oath by the break of the day.

 I swear by the dawn

Also we can know the blessing of the early rising by the narration of Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم:

Ali رضي الله عنه narrates, Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said: Oh Allah, bless my ummah in its early rising.

Dear readers, let us  try to ponder over the words of Allah and his messenger and try to achieve maximum benefits from the life which we have been granted. Insha Allah

Time Management resources:

Here are the 2 valuable books which inspired me to set up a time management. Wonderful books that every mum should have to set up a well organized house. May Allah reward the sisters and guide them on the straight path!

Powerful Time Management Skills for Muslims by Zohra Sarwari 

Some text quoted from this book:

Time has 2 characteristics which makes it the most valuable thing a human has:

• It passes quickly
• Once time has passed, it cannot be returned, nor can it be compensated for.

To realize the value of ONE YEAR, 

ask a student who has failed a grade.

To realize the value of ONE MONTH,

ask a mother who has given birth to a premature baby.

To realize the value of ONE WEEK, 

ask an editor of a weekly newspaper.

To realize the value of ONE DAY, 

ask a daily wage laborer who has kids to feed.

To realize the value of ONE HOUR, 

ask the girl and guy who are waiting to get married.

To realize the value of ONE MINUTE, 

ask a person who has missed the train.

To realize the value of ONE SECOND, 

ask a person who has avoided an accident.

To realize the value of ONE MILLI-SECOND, 

ask the person who has won a silver medal in the Olympics

101 Time Management by Crystal Paine 

One of valuable lecture on time management by Ash-sheikh Muhammad Al-shareef. (download link - file size 10mb)